Psychotherapy in Downtown Toronto
individual and couples counselling
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I am Lisa Kelly, a Registered Psychotherapist in downtown Toronto serving LGBT and straight clients from Riverdale, Cabbagetown, Yorkville, St. Lawrence Market, Distillery, Rosedale, Leslieville, central Toronto and the GTA.
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People seek therapists for a variety of reasons. You could be looking for a safe haven from the overwhelming stresses of life - a place where you can take time to reflect and be the focus of attention. You might want insight into your needs, feelings, thoughts and reactions or to work on self-esteem, important relationships and ways to communicate more effectively. Or it could be that you want to process difficult experiences and find ways to cope as you navigate a life transition. There are countless possibilities.
Regardless of your hopes for therapy, you might feel both anxious and excited about getting started. That's perfectly understandable. Know that I aim to be accepting, emotionally present and to work at a pace that is comfortable for you. Collaborating with you, while you share your concerns, I offer my heartfelt attention and respectful challenge.
I work with clients who are dealing with an array of emotional, personal and relational issues. My clients are busy professionals like you - lawyers, realtors, financial advisers, teachers, physicians, actors, advertising executives, television and film producers, athletes, business owners, digital media experts, architects, surgeons, dentists, professors, household project managers, artists, designers, physiotherapists, accountants, art dealers etc.
Please scroll down to read more about relationship issues, life transitions, self-esteem and anxiety.
Relationship issues therapy:
Could the quality of your relationships - with family, friends, colleagues and lovers - influence your personal growth, degree of self-actualization or whether you thrive? I encourage individuals and couples to contemplate this question - to reflect on themselves, to communicate carefully and engage deeply.
While we do our best, our relationships remain fraught with challenges. No relationship gets off scot-free. Because there is no "perfect" partner, great relating comes down to how we negotiate our inevitable differences. Issues - which arise intra-personaly, inter-personally and externally - wreak havoc on our interactions. What to do? How to make sense of or deal with all the variables? You wonder what, if any, your part in it all is. You ask yourself whether - and how - to move on or stay. You contemplate the impact on your self-esteem and future. If you are plagued by these or other questions, I encourage you to get in touch with me.
Toronto relationship issues therapist:
As a relationship issues therapist, I am passionate about empowering people to relate and connect. In session, you can express your feelings, be heard, gain insights, explore possibilities, tap into your strengths, hone communication skills, catalyze change and develop valuable relational skills with which to make the most of your life and relationships.
Recognizing your individuality, or your unique dynamic as a couple, I will tailor my knowledge to you. Being emotionally present to your feelings, needs and concerns as they arise, I will help you to gain insight as well as determine next steps.
While therapy is less stigmatized than it used to be, you might feel a sense of shame about the idea of seeing a therapist - shame that you haven't quite managed to solve your relationship issues or shame that you may not have made the best choices for yourself. Perhaps past experiences or recent events have overwhelmed your ability to cope. Know that we all get stuck at times and stand to benefit from working with an expert.
Life purpose or life transition therapy:
You may be going through a life transition or struggling to forge a sense of identity, purpose or belonging. Your quest might be to find your place in the world. Perhaps you would like to take stock of your life to date and be steadily supported in your efforts to create a fulfilling future. A person's greatest challenge is often to live an enriched and meaningful life despite his or her beginnings and current circumstances. What if you were to care for yourself in ways you've cared for others? What if you were to prioritize your own needs, interests, passions and talents just a little more?
If we don't envision and act on our hopes for a brighter future, we end up settling for a life that happens to us - a life of potential regrets. Whether we realize it or not, some regrets stem from our daily habits - from choices we make each day. (Do you watch two hours of TV instead of pursuing a longstanding interest?) Contemplate the extent to which your various habits are helping you to actualize your ideal future. What if each moment is an opportunity that can be used to shape the rest of your life?
Life transitions or mid-life crises include:
The above are just a few of numerous possible life changes. Many of my clients have grappled with moving from place to place or with leaving a partner or employer. Some lose family and friends and struggle to find ways to move on. The deep and sometimes painful feelings that emerge in response to big change understandably prompt self-reflection and concerns about the road ahead. It may be in your best interests to contact a psychotherapist.
My approach as a life transitions therapist:
I try to provide clients with a safe space in which to connect with feelings and needs triggered by big shifts in their lives. I begin with taking a thorough history. From there, I help clients explore answers to their own important questions as well as to discover which choices, adjustments and steps might lead to improvements in quality of life.
If your life transition evokes questions about your life purpose, I can help you to clarify your values, connect with your true desires, turn wishes into plans and actualize your vision for the future. If you are grappling with a big decision, you might wish to use sessions for exploration. I offer emotional support - helping clients identify as well take action around their specific needs.
anxiety and self-esteem
Therapy for anxiety and low self-esteem:
If you've been experiencing anxiety and low self-esteem, I imagine you would like to be heard, understood and validated - all in a confidential and non-judgmental atmosphere. Maybe you are looking for for a fresh perspective or for someone who will be responsive to your concerns in ways friends and family haven't been. Possibly you have no one else to talk to and have struggled with people-pleasing, perfectionism, saying "no," setting boundaries, being assertive or relentlessly comparing yourself to others.
Suffering from low self-confidence, self-worth or self-esteem?
For most of us, self-esteem fluctuates through time, yet may have a frustrating tendency to drop. What is self-esteem? Some might define it as our own evaluation self-worth. How do you measure your worth? Are you more concerned about other peoples' opinions than your own? Do you relentlessly compare yourself to others? Have you internalized someone else's critical voice? Is the life you have constructed a response to that criticism more so than it is an expresion of your true values? Which of your skills and qualities are you assured of - and not?
If you grew up in surroundings where your feelings, needs and opinions were not valued, you may have understandably developed low self-esteem. You may have taken messages from the ways others treated you that now negatively influence your core beliefs, self-talk and ways of interacting.
How you feel about yourself - whether you respect yourself - influences the quality of your life. Your capacity to make important, timely decisions about a partner or career can be affected by your confidence. Consider this: The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have. Therefore, the most important challenge you face may be to develop positive self-regard.
If we do not like ourselves, we will not assert ourselves, make requests, take action on our own behalf or even follow our dreams. Instead we will defer to someone we want to please or impress. People who experience feelings of low self-esteem may stay in relationships and jobs that reflect and reinforce their low self-worth.
So here's the crux of it: Self-esteem can be intrinsic or extrinsic. If you were loved unconditionally growing up, you likely feel satisfied with yourself as you are today. That is, you love yourself regardless of the ways others treat you and regardless of your so-called imperfections and failures. Unlike someone with extrinsically-based self-esteem, you do not need the approval or praise of authority figures or of society in order to feel good about yourself. You have not bought into the myth that you are of value only in so far as you produce and consume. You do not need external measures of success - such as high income, educational credentials, a model's body or skin tone etc. to feel good about yourself.
In my practice, I help clients strengthen their intrinsic self-worth. I do this relationally rather than than by putting them through self-esteem boot camp. Perhaps you grew up in a family in which love came with strings attached: You had to keep your needs and feelings to yourself or look after others to be accepted. Is it any surprise that you now look outside yourself for acceptance - that you depend on external measures of success or on another person to feel validated?
Maybe you have jumped through hoops for most of your life believing that achievements will breed self-worth. You might now be accomplished, but not necessarily confident. Right? Perhaps you feel pride at times, but it is short-lived. Wondering where you went wrong? Would you like to work on feeling more at ease with who you are? If so, please get in touch with me. I would love to work with you.
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Therapy and counselling fee for individuals:
Fees are rarely covered by work/health insurance.
Therapy is a process-oriented investment in personal growth.
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Since everyone changes in their own unique way and at their own pace, a therapist or counsellor will tailor their approach to each client's needs. While offering my heartfelt attention, I aim to facilitate your journey toward a more fulfilling life. In time, with the insights and the skills you gain, you will likely feel more at ease and be better equipped to handle life - acting on your own behalf and relating to others more effectively. I welcome you to get in touch and experience the benefits of psychotherapy and counselling.
psychotherapy and counselling for relationship issues
I am a relationship issues therapist and counsellor.
Chatelaine and Canadian Living magazines as well as the Canadian Tamil Youth Leadership Program have interviewed me about relationship issues. More recently, I was approached by the BBC and the Toronto Star about my work with married couples.
Relationships - whether with romantic partners, friends, family, co-workers, or pets - are fundamental to our lives. They provide us with companionship and a sense of belonging. They can also be a source of support and self-esteem. They significantly influence who we are - how we think, feel and act. Without a doubt, relationships are the most important aspect of being human.
Most of us are wired to connect - to feel seen, heard, understood, known, valued and loved. When relationship issues - essentially unmet needs - inevitably arise, we feel disconnected and suffer. How to re-connect? How to soothe the suffering? These are important questions.
Relationship skills were not taught at school and we subscribe to the myth that we can figure everything out as we go along. We don’t think twice about getting professional training to drive a car or about investing in a good education towards establishing a career. So why do we think twice about consulting a relationship expert re: improving our relationships?
Communication for relationship issues:
Interpersonal and communication skills weren't taught at school. Yet, most of us need guidance, support and practice to communicate effectively. Communication skills not only help to resolve relationship issues, but to preempt them. They help us to clearly express our feelings, needs and wishes and to inquire about those of others.
Would you like to develop your ability to express feelings, communicate assertively, make requests, engage others, resolve conflict, negotiate and respond calmly? A relationship counsellor or therapist can provide invaluable training and support.
In addition to helping with communication skills, relationship therapists can help you to develop the self-awareness and courage needed to address relationship issues, deepen emotional intimacy, rekindle passion and improve the quality of your bonds.
Relationships - especially with significant others - often mirror our relationship to ourselves. For example, if you tend be dismissive of your feelings (as a perhaps a parent was), you may discover that you gravitate to partners who disregard your feelings. Or if you are self-scrutinizing, it may be you find yourself with a partner who criticizes you.
Allow a relationship therapist to support you in exploring the ways in which you avoid your true self and other people. It would be my pleasure to help you develop emotional presence and to discover effective means of connecting.
3 tips for healthy relationships:
What is healthy for one person may not be for the next. Generally however, there are three tips:
Too often, we find ourselves in a relationship without first having been clear - to ourselves and to our partner - about what exactly we want. Only when we feel dissatisfied, do our true desires become clear. Most of us then complain, try to change the person we are with (to a great degree) or get our needs met on the sly. Few of us make small, specific requests. Even fewer of us know when to give up and move on. We see the red flags and stick around.
Some common red flags:
Most people can benefit from developing their relational and communication skills. If you are interested in cultivating healthier relationships, I welcome you to contact me.
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Toronto Psychotherapist and Relationship Issues Therapist serving downtown Toronto, Cabbagetown, Yorkville, Riverdale, Leslieville, St. Lawrence Market, the Distillery, Rosedale, the GTA.
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