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Lisa M Kelly, Psychotherapist in Downtown Toronto

Psychotherapist in downtown Toronto

individual and couples therapy

Counselling and psychotherapy in Toronto for:

 
  • relationships
  • communication
  • life transition
  • relationship break-up
  • life transitions
  • relationship issues
  • marital issues
  • premarital concerns
  • self-esteem
  • confidence
  • loneliness
  • anxiety


I am Lisa Kelly, a Registered Psychotherapist in downtown Toronto serving LGBT and straight clients from Riverdale, Cabbagetown, Yorkville, St. Lawrence Market, Distillery, Rosedale, Leslieville, central Toronto and the GTA.


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a warm hello and welcome ~ how can I help?

Your online searches for a therapist may have yielded lists of psychotherapy referral services in Toronto, psychotherapy groups and the GTA's best psychotherapists. You might now be experiencing a bit of choice paralysis. Know that you have taken the first and biggest step and are likely much closer to support and relief.

People seek counselling and psychotherapy for a variety of reasons. You could be looking for a safe haven from the overwhelming stresses of life - a place where you can take time to reflect and be the focus of attention. You might want insight into your needs, feelings, thoughts and reactions or to explore self-esteem, important relationships and ways to communicate more effectively. Or it could be that you want to process difficult experiences and find ways navigate a life transition. There are countless possibilities.

Whether you are looking for individual or couples therapy, you might feel both anxious and excited about getting started. That's completely understandable. I aim to be accepting, emotionally present and to work at a pace that is comfortable for you. Collaborating with you, while you share your concerns, I offer my heartfelt attention and respectful challenge.

Being with people as they connect more deeply to themselves and experience increasing confidence is a true privilege. I have been humbled to see that as my clients grow and change they make the world a better place.

I work with people who are dealing with an array of emotional, personal and relational issues. My clients are busy professionals like you - lawyers, realtors, financial advisors, teachers, physicians, first responders, actors, advertising executives, producers, directors, athletes, business owners, digital media experts, architects, surgeons, dentists, professors, project managers, artists, designers, physiotherapists, accountants, art dealers, public service employees etc.


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Psychotherapist in downtown Toronto reviews relationship issues,
life transitions, self-esteem, anxiety, loneliness (below):


Therapy is a process-oriented investment in personal growth. Develop your ability to take risks, communicate effectively, engage people, pursue your dreams and live a fulfilling life. Weekly or bi-weekly psychotherapy sessions are recommended for creating lasting change in your self-esteem, relationships and communication skills.






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relationships

Relationship therapy

Could the quality of our relationships - with family, friends, colleagues and partners - influence our physical health, degree of self-actualization and whether we thrive in life? Could our emotional well-being depend on having close, fulfilling relationships? Do small relational moments and our feelings about them give meaning to our lives - maybe even beyond other experiences? I encourage individuals and couples to contemplate these questions.

Now more than ever in history we turn to our romantic partners to meet needs once met by an entire community. Not only do we want to know that we really matter to our partner, but that s/he will be there when we need him/her the most - to listen, to advise, to fix, to empathize, to excite and to calm.

Despite our best efforts to communicate and connect, our relationships - with friends, lovers, colleagues and family - become challenging. No relationship remains trouble-free. Issues inside each of us, between us, and external to our relationship eventually wreak havoc on our interactions. Beliefs about ourselves and others are very much alive in our relational dynamics.

Great relating is not just about shared values, interests and experiences, but is also about how we deal with our inevitable relationship issues. (We have different feelings, desires, ideas about how and when things should be done etc.) Unless we are able to develop better insight and draw on relational, negotiation and communication skills, we will likely get caught in escalating cycles of blaming, pursuing, distancing and silence.


Relationship issues therapy

If there is relational strife, you wonder how you may have contributed to it. You ask yourself whether relationship issues with your partner indicate incompatibility. You don't know if you should break up or stay together. You have invested your heart, time and energy. While your partner has outstanding qualities, you worry some problems could undermine a marriage or future together. You spin your wheels and experience doubts that leave you sleepless. Indecision rules the day.

You may have recently been blind-sided by betrayal, rejection and/or abandonment. You might be devastated, plagued with painful questions and wondering how to move on. You struggle with heartache, anger and the corrosive toll on your self-esteem. Alternatively, you may be grappling with secrets that you keep from your primary partner. If you are ruminating about your relationship or break-up, I encourage you to get in touch with me. I am often consulted by individuals who are looking for a sounding board, empathy, a relationship professional's perspective, more clarity, communication tips etc.


Relationship therapist in downtown Toronto

It has been said that the quality of our relationships - with self and others - largely determines the quality of our lives. I hope to understand how you have been impacted by your unique relational experiences with your partner, family, friends, colleagues, society, community and culture. In collaboration with you, I hope to create a therapeutic relationship that you will find supportive, transforming and energizing. I am passionate about offering you a space in which to express your feelings, be heard, gain insights, explore possibilities, tap into strengths, hone communication skills, catalyze change and develop valuable relational skills with which to make the most of your relationships and life.

Recognizing your individuality or your unique dynamic as a couple, I will tailor my knowledge to you. Being emotionally present and responsive to your feelings, needs and concerns as they arise, I hope to help you to gain insight, communicate genuinely and engage deeply.

While therapy is less stigmatized than it used to be, you might feel ashamed about seeking help - shame that you haven't quite managed to solve your relationship issues on your own or shame that you may not have made the best choices for yourself. Would you like to learn how to reach out and respond to others in ways that invite closeness? Or to reflect on ways you could improve your dating experiences? Have past or recent events left you feeling discouraged or overwhelmed your ability to cope? Know that we all get stuck at times and stand to benefit from working with a professional. Learn how to love at your best with a relationship therapist in downtown Toronto.


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life transitions

Life purpose or life transition therapy

You may be going through a life transition. Your quest might be to forge a sense of identity, purpose or belonging - to discover who you are, express yourself and find your place in the world. Perhaps you would like to take stock of your life to date and be steadily supported in your efforts to create a fulfilling future. A person's greatest challenge is often to live an enriched and meaningful life despite his or her beginnings and current circumstances. What if you were to care for yourself in ways you have cared for others? What if you were to prioritize your own values, needs, interests, passions and talents just a little more?

If we don't envision and act on our hopes for a brighter future, we end up settling for a life that happens to us - a life of potential regrets. Whether we realize it or not, some regrets stem from our daily habits - from choices we make each day. By whose values have you been living your life? Very often we have lived according to the expectations set out for us by our family, friends, faith, school, community, culture or country. Sometimes we need to recover our personal direction - to re-establish connection to what is true for us - especially when in circumstances over which we have little control. Consider the extent to which your daily routines help you to actualize your identity and potential. What if each moment is an opportunity that can be used to shape the rest of your life?


Life transitions or mid-life crises include:

  • moving and relocation
  • career changes
  • individuating from a partner or family
  • a shift into a long term relationship or family
  • relationship break-up or divorce
  • death of a partner, family member, friend
  • traumatic events - chronic or acute

The above are just a few of numerous possible life changes. Many of my clients have grappled with moving from place to place or with leaving a partner or employer. Some lose family and friends and struggle to find ways to move on. The deep and often painful feelings that emerge in response to big change understandably prompt self-reflection and concerns about the unknown ahead. If you are struggling with feelings of guilt, grief or inadequacy you might benefit from working with a psychotherapist.


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I aim to provide clients with a safe space in which to connect with the feelings and needs triggered by big shifts in their lives. I begin with taking a thorough history. From there, I help clients explore answers to their own important questions as well as to discover which choices, adjustments and steps might lead to improvements in quality of life.

If your life transition evokes questions about your life purpose, I can help you to clarify your core values, identify your unique talents, discern your true desires, craft a personal mission statement, turn dreams into plans and actualize your vision for the future.

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anxiety and self-esteem

Self-esteem and anxiety therapy

Have you been experiencing anxiety or low self-esteem? If your life is orchestrated by your fears, I imagine you would like to be heard, understood and validated in a confidential and completely non-judgmental atmosphere. Maybe you are looking for a fresh perspective or for someone who will be responsive to your concerns in ways friends and family haven't been. Possibly you have no one else to talk to and have struggled with people-pleasing, perfectionism, saying "no," setting boundaries, being assertive or relentlessly comparing yourself to others.



Hoping to build self-confidence?

For most of us, self-esteem fluctuates through time, and may have a frustrating tendency to wane. What is self-esteem? Some might define it as our own evaluation of self-worth. How do you measure your worth? Are you more concerned about other peoples' opinions than your own? Do you relentlessly compare yourself to others? Have you internalized someone else's critical voice? Are you forever achieving yet still feeling like a failure? Is your life a response to that criticism more so than it is an expression of your true self? Are you confused about who you really are? About how you really feel?

If you grew up in surroundings where your feelings, needs and perspectives were not valued, you may have understandably developed low self-esteem. You may have taken messages from the ways others treated you that now negatively influence your core beliefs, self-talk and ways of interacting.

How you feel about yourself - whether you respect yourself - influences the quality of your life. Your capacity to make important, timely decisions about a partner or career can be affected by your confidence. Consider this: The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have. Therefore, the most important challenge you face may be to develop positive self-regard.

If we do not value ourselves, we will not be assertive, make requests, take action on our own behalf or even follow our dreams. Instead we will defer to those we want to please or impress. People suffering from low self-esteem may be in jobs that reflect and reinforce their low self-worth. A person with low self-esteem might also experience difficulty initiating and deepening relationships. Very often, a negative self-image is soothed through alcohol, drugs, over-work, emotional eating, shopping, plastic surgery etc.


Self-esteem counselling

So here's the crux of it: Self-esteem can be intrinsic or extrinsic. If you were loved unconditionally while growing up, you likely feel satisfied with yourself as you are today - which means you have intrinsic self-worth. You love yourself in spite of of the ways others treat you and in spite of your so-called imperfections and failures. Unlike someone with extrinsically-based self-esteem, you do not need the approval or praise of authority figures or of society in order to feel good about yourself. You have not bought into the myth that you are of value only in so far as you produce and consume. You do not rely on externally defined indicators - such as high income, educational credentials, a model's body or skin tone etc. to feel good about yourself.

I help clients to strengthen their intrinsic self-worth. I do this relationally rather than by putting them through self-esteem boot camp. You may have jumped through hoops for most of your life believing that achievements breed self-worth. But you are discovering that the confidence that comes with success is often short-lived. Right?

Wondering where you went wrong? Are you sick of feeling alone, anxious or inadequate? Would you like to work on feeling more at ease with and expressive of who you are? If so, please get in touch with me. I would love to work with you. Now might finally be the time to make space for you - to discover your value as a human being rather than as a human doing.


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loneliness

Feeling isolated or lonely? Hoping a Toronto psychotherapist can help?

Loneliness is sometimes defined as the gap between a person's actual and desired social relationships. Did you know that loneliness is on the rise globally and that close to one third of Canadians live alone? Scientific studies have revealed that feeling lonely and/or being isolated can negatively affect mental and physical health - reducing quality of life and lifespan. We are wired for connection and tend to need both social and intimate connections.


Common reasons for loneliness and therapy:

  • a recent move, living alone, being single
  • dysfunctional or abusive family of origin
  • a relationship break-up, separation or divorce
  • friends who have moved or who are busy with work, a partner, kids etc.
  • involvement with an emotionally or physically distant partner
  • the death or departure of a partner, family member, friend
  • social anxiety, low self-esteem or few emotional intimacy skills
  • illness, aging, poverty, shame, depression, not being "out," or mainstream
  • addiction to work, video games, gambling/ investing, shopping etc.
  • unemployment, a new job, working from home
  • caring for others at home alone with few external involvements

While feelings of loneliness often arise situationally we tend to blame them on our imagined character flaws. For example, we might say to ourselves, "The reason I am alone and lonely is that I am boring, unintelligent, unattractive."

Even in the best of circumstances connecting can be difficult. Most of us want to be known yet at the same time fear being known. Generally we worry that in opening up we will be either a burden or be judged. Sharing vulnerable feelings can be particularly challenging for anyone who has been bullied, abused, neglected, controlled, rejected, abandoned, stereotyped or encouraged to be strong, silent, self-sufficient and of service. If we have not inherited a big loving family, we may have to cultivate close social connections. And this may not be so easy to do.

Consider the number of people you can confide in and count on. Do you have meaningful exchanges with others? A bond develops when interactions involve reciprocity - give and take. We generally benefit from scheduled quality time with people who hear, understand and value us. Quality time can be face-to-face, emotionally attuned, one-on-one time or it can be side-by-side time participating in a shared activity. If creating intimate or social connections is challenging for you, I encourage you to contact me.


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free consultation call


Towards the possibility of working together, I would be happy to answer your questions.
Feeling stuck and taking steps to change can bring relief.
Contact me to get a sense of who I am and of how I can be of support.
(Consultation calls are up to 15 minutes.)


Free consultation call: contact me at lisa@lisamkelly.com.
Or copy lisa@lisamkelly.com into your email address bar.

Therapy and counselling fee for individuals:

  • 60 mins: $119.47 + HST

Cabbagetown psychotherapy:


Day and evening appointments are held at 211 Carlton Street on weekdays in a large, historic house in Cabbagetown, downtown Toronto. The Victorian era building was once owned and inhabited by Dr. Oronhyatekha (1841-1907), a medical doctor, activist and philanthropist of very high regard. He and other physicians and dentists lived and practised out of their homes on the strip of Carlton once known as "Doctor's Row."

It's usually best to experience Cabbagetown psychotherapy sessions in person. However, counselling is also available by phone when individual clients are unable to attend therapy sessions face-to-face.



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Time to find a therapist in Toronto?


Wondering if it's time to find a good therapist in Toronto?
Do you answer "yes" to any of the following?


  • Is an important connection - with a partner, spouse, friend or family member - a repeated source of pain? Are your interpersonal issues affecting your self-esteem?


  • Are you coping with a major life event - such as a divorce or relationship break-up, job loss or a financial crisis, an illness, accident, the death of a loved one, a move or a failure?


  • Do you feel that your life lacks meaning or purpose? Are you going through the motions experiencing little happiness? Have you lost touch with the hopes and dreams that once inspired and energized you?


  • Are you grappling with a big decision? Have you lost that spark for the person you were once in love with? Do you love your partner enough to keep investing over the long run? Are you settling for less than you would like? Has someone else caught your eye? Are you afraid to go life alone? Or worried you may never find a better partner?


  • Have you recently moved to the GTA - either on your own or with a partner? Are you wondering how to meet people, make friends, find a suitable date, discover your life's meaning? Are you feeling isolated, overwhelmed, lonely, stressed and in need of a caring listener?


  • Are you avoiding talking to your partner, friends or family about your struggles? Do you fear being judged? Or considered a burden? Is there no one to confide in or count on?


  • Are you repeating the same negative patterns at work, with family, friends, your partner or with personal pursuits? Are unresolved issues from your past eroding your relationships and self-esteem?


  • Do you feel as though you've lost touch with vital aspects of yourself? Are you hoping to reclaim, revitalize and grow one or more of those parts - such as creative, intellectual, athletic or extrovert parts etc.?


  • Are you at a loss for words and searching for a better way to say what needs to be said? Are you looking for a "nice" way to tell the truth or to ask an important question? Communication skills are essential to resolving relationship issues and creating fulfilling partnerships.


  • Are you increasingly occupying yourself with work? Are existing and potential relationships (outside of your job) suffering from your inattention? Is work your main source of confidence? Does your career provide distraction from difficult feelings? Do you lack interests, hobbies and friendships apart from those associated with work? What has your relentless focus on work cost you and those close to you?



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11 benefits of therapy and counselling


Psychotherapy, relationship therapy and counselling can:

  • give you a non-judgmental space in which to tell your story, express your feelings, be heard and feel understood
  • offer you a safe or neutral place to talk about concerns, memories, experiences, situations, dilemmas or fears
  • help you process unresolved experiences, gain insights, explore possibilities and catalyze change
  • raise your awareness of how your beliefs are influencing your decisions and limiting your potential
  • help you adjust behaviour patterns that are blocking you from living fully and feeling satisfied
  • support you in becoming the director of your life
  • help you to know, accept and value yourself in relation to others
  • empower you to find your voice, assert yourself, make requests and set boundaries
  • help you identify and experience your feelings as well as get your needs met
  • develop your ability to engage others genuinely and live in a way that reflects the real you
  • empower you with communication skills that enrich your relationships and build self-esteem

Since everyone changes in their own unique way and at their own pace, a therapist or counsellor will tailor their approach to each client's needs. While offering my heartfelt attention, I aim to facilitate your journey toward a more fulfilling life. In time, with the insights and the skills you gain, you will likely feel more at ease and be better equipped to handle life - acting on your own behalf and relating to others more effectively. I welcome you to get in touch and experience the benefits of psychotherapy, relationship therapy and counselling.



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psychotherapy and counselling for relationship issues


Toronto relationship issues therapist and counsellor

Chatelaine and Canadian Living magazines as well as the Canadian Tamil Youth Leadership Program have interviewed me about relationship issues. More recently, I was approached by the BBC and the Toronto Star about my work with married couples.

Relationships - whether with romantic partners, friends, family, co-workers, or pets - are fundamental to our lives. They provide us with companionship, support, self-esteem and a sense of belonging. They significantly influence who we are, the decisions we make, how we think, feel and act. Without a doubt, relationships are the most important aspect of our lives.

Most of us are wired to connect - to feel seen, heard, understood, known, valued and loved. When relationship problems - essentially unmet needs - inevitably arise, we feel disconnected and suffer. We wonder how to re-connect, soothe our suffering, move forward. These are critical questions.

Relationship skills were not taught anywhere and we subscribe to the myth that we can figure everything out as we go along. We don’t think twice about getting professional training to drive a car or about investing in a good education towards establishing a career. So why do we think twice about consulting a relationship expert about improving our work, family, friend and romantic relationships?


Communication for relationships

Most of us need guidance, support and practice to communicate effectively. Interpersonal and communication skills not only help to resolve relationship issues, but to preempt them. They help us to clearly express our feelings, needs and wishes and to inquire about those of others.

Would you like to develop your ability to express feelings, communicate assertively, make requests, engage others, resolve conflict, negotiate and respond calmly? A relationship counsellor or therapist can provide invaluable training and support.

In addition to helping with communication skills, relationship therapists can help you to develop the self-awareness and courage needed to address relationship issues, deepen emotional intimacy, rekindle passion and improve the quality of your connections.

Relationships - especially with significant others - often mirror our relationship to ourselves. For example, if you tend be dismissive of your feelings (as perhaps a parent was), you may notice in your relationship history a pattern of involvement with partners who disregard or minimize your feelings. Or if you are self-scrutinizing, it may be you find yourself with a partner who criticizes you.

Allow a relationship therapist to support you in exploring the ways in which you avoid your true self and other people. It would be my pleasure to help you develop emotional presence and to discover effective means of connecting.



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5 signs of healthy love relationships:

You and your partner:

  • describe your respective relationship visions
  • take initiative to do what matters most for each other
  • grow your relational skills together from the start
  • offer each other your full attention
  • attune and respond to each other's feelings, needs


Relationships and relationship issues

Too often we find ourselves fairly far into a relationship before realizing we have not been clear - with ourselves or our partner - about what we want and need. Only when we feel dissatisfied do our most important desires become apparent. Most of us then complain, try to change the person we are with (to a great degree), seethe silently or get our needs met on the sly. Few of us know how to make small specific requests. Even fewer of us know when to give up and move on. Most of us see the red flags and stick around. This is often because at least one critical need is being met now and again.

Most partners can benefit from developing their relational and communication skills. If you are interested in cultivating healthier relationships, I welcome you to contact me.

Click the following link to learn more about couples counselling therapy for relationship issues.


Find a therapist in Toronto or a registered psychotherapist in downtown Toronto.

If you are stressed about issues with a current or past partner, you may be searching for fresh perspectives and effective tools. You may be wondering how to better communicate, relate and connect. Or simply to make sense of what's been going on.

Are you going around in circles, repeatedly disagreeing about the same issues? Are your fears - of rejection, abandonment, dependency, neglect, inadequacy, failure, conflict, of hurting your partner's feelings, or of being suffocated, used or controlled - affecting the quality of your connection/s?

Professional and caring support is a step away: Please email me. I encourage you to book a relationship counselling session - for you and your partner, or for you on your own. It's possible to work through interpersonal issues and make adjustments that lead to positive, sustained change. Whether you would like to become closer to your partner, process current issues, reflect on past challenges or find ways to move forward, I would be happy to help.





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tips on looking for psychotherapists, counsellors & relationship therapists


Looking for an excellent Toronto psychotherapist, counsellor or relationship therapist?



The GTA is home to many exceptional mental health professionals with unique training and experience. Interestingly, research has shown that an essential factor in the "success" of therapy or counselling is the rapport a client feels with his or her therapist or counsellor. Since "success" is not entirely based on on the expert's credentials, pay attention to how you feel when first consulting with a professional.


To find the best Toronto psychotherapist, counsellor or relationship expert for you, answer these questions:

  • What would you like from psychotherapy or counselling?
  • What is important to you in a mental health professional?
  • What do you want the psychotherapist or counsellor to know about working with you?
  • What is most important to you - fit, location, cost, hours, approach, gender?


During your consultation, ask yourself whether you feel comfortable talking to the professional. Do you feel seen, heard, understood, accepted and respected? Do you sense that he or she cares about you, or empathizes with your needs and concerns? If your answer is yes, you may want to book an appointment.

Once in session - and on an ongoing basis - try to be aware of what does and doesn't work for you. Are you looking for someone who mainly listens or for someone who is responsive? Do you want a therapist to be directive, passive or collaborative? Do you enjoy being asked questions? Or are you hoping for a sounding board? Are you looking for tools? Your satisfaction from the process is in part determined by your ability to express your needs.


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psychotherapy and counselling


Psychotherapy is a process of personal growth leading to potential change in self-esteem, career and relationships.


A psychotherapist or counsellor can support you through challenging circumstances and ease the way to a more fulfilling life.
Working with a professional rather than struggling in isolation can give you new perspectives, open up possibilities for healing and change, and help you find satisfying solutions to your problems.

A client and mental health expert meet regularly with the goal of exploring and understanding the client's inner and outer worlds - such as feelings, needs, experiences, challenges, hopes, experiences and relationships. A psychotherapist or therapist will not give advice so much as help you explore options and resolve inner conflict so that you can arrive at your own insights and decisions. Because psychotherapists and counsellors have training in a wide variety of areas, they take unique approaches to their work with clients. The ultimate aim though is to assist you in living with more purpose, authenticity, effectiveness, creativity and spontaneity. Your self-awareness, health and well-being are of interest in all approaches to psychotherapy and counselling.


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We build self-confidence and self-esteem when we:

  • experience a meaningful sense of connection to ourselves and others
  • act in accordance with our true feelings, needs and values
  • balance meeting our needs with those of others
  • contribute something we value which others in turn appreciate
  • feel some degree of control or influence over our lives
  • are able to embrace ourselves lovingly - flaws and all

Self-esteem therapy and self-esteem counselling can help build confidence.

Do you lack pride in yourself or a basic sense of self-confidence?
Does your self-esteem plummet based on someone else's inability to see your worth?
Do you overvalue others and meanwhile undervalue yourself?
Are you missing joie de vivre - that spark for living?
I want to understand how you got to where you're at - how you see and experience yourself and your world.
Email me. I would be happy to help you get on track and feel better about yourself.



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tips for building self-esteem


Counselling and psychotherapy for low self-esteem.

To a significant degree, your future is based on your current day habits and choices. Consider creating a personal routine from the following list - one that supports your intellectual development, physical health, creativity and emotional well-being.

A regime will help you reach your goals as well as learn from and move beyond life's inevitable challenges. Remember failure is an event. It is not permanent. It does not define you. Keep perspective: We are all simultaneously succeeding at some things and struggling with others. No one of achievement has avoided mistakes, setbacks or failures. "Successful" people learn from their mistakes, get support, adapt and try again. Their successes are proportional to their mistakes.


  • Acknowledge the wisdom you've gained through first-hand experience.
  • Focus on your growth, effort, commitment & perseverance vs. results.
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  • Spend time with people who value and support you.
  • Regularly do things you enjoy and which you do well.
  • List your skills, strengths, qualities, values and achievements.
  • Share your skills and love; mentor someone, volunteer.
  • Identify 5 things each day that you did well the day prior.
  • Learn from motivational speakers on YouTube.
  • Break bigger goals down into smaller achievable steps.
  • Collect photos of and quotes from people you admire.
  • Compliment yourself at least once per day.
  • Find or create the circumstances in which you can flourish.
  • Name things you are grateful for.
  • Choose 5 inspirational affirmations to recite daily.
  • Solicit advice from those you admire. Find a mentor.
  • Get the support you need. No one makes it alone.
  • Ask friends to list special qualities you have.
  • Envision your ideal future as though it's happening now.
  • Do something you truly enjoy - something you find uplifting.
  • Get physical: exercise, dance or clean.
  • Pursue a new interest.
  • Speak back to the critical judge in your head.
  • Give yourself the compassion and positive regard you give to others.
  • Ask the wise part of you to support the struggling part of you.



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relational therapists and relational therapy in toronto


Registered psychotherapist and certified gestalt (relational) therapist
To find out about gestalt therapy (relational therapy), see my about me page.

Are you interested in living a life of few regrets?
Gestalt therapy encourages you to take increased responsibility for shaping your life.
Little by little, you can take steps to create more of the life you want.
Gestalt therapists want to know how you feel, what you need and how you can get your needs met.
Let me support you in taking the risks necessary for personal development and fulfillment.
Find your edges of growth and improve the way you engage yourself others.
It is possible to be more authentic, effective, creative, spontaneous and satisfied.



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Looking for psychotherapists, counsellors and relational therapists in downtown Toronto?


Therapists and counsellors can support you in making changes that potentially alter the course and quality of your life. Find a certified professional you feel comfortable with. The more you stick with your process of supported personal growth, the more you will develop your ability to handle challenging situations effectively and confidently. The skills and insights you gain will likely transfer beyond your present situation to other important realms of your life. Imagine communicating more assertively at work, in your personal pursuits and romantic relationships, as well as with friends and family. Consider psychotherapy and counselling to be an investment in your personal development that pays off over time by enriching your quality of life.


What is the cost of not seeing a psychotherapist or counsellor?

  • more time spent ruminating and feeling stuck?
  • emotional pain that leaves you distracted at work and sleepless at night?
  • unresolved baggage that you carry into future relationships?
  • unwelcome advice from family and friends that leaves you feeling judged?
  • living a regret-filled life?
  • chronically low self-esteem?

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Looking for reviews of best therapists in Toronto?

Wondering how to find a good therapist in Toronto?

Psychological research indicates that the best predictor of successful therapy outcomes is the quality of the client-therapist relationship. Try to find a therapist in Toronto you feel comfortable with. Determine which qualities the best psychotherapist for you might have. For example - sincere, empathetic, warm, non-judgmental, thought-provoking, insightful, perceptive, caring, encouraging etc. Also, determine your wishes for therapy: Are you hoping to explore particular issues? Get tough experiences off your chest? Be carefully listened to? Receive a sincere response? Get fresh perspectives? Develop self-awareness? Gain tools and strategies? Be emotionally supported? Develop new skills? Establish steps forward? Find the best therapists in Toronto for you - professionals who have the experience you are looking for and who seem genuinely motivated to help. This may not be easy, but will likely be worth the effort.

I believe that the client's focus and commitment largely determines whether s/he views therapy as a success. If a person regularly attends sessions over a period of months, clearly states their needs to the therapist, fully engages in the process and apply new concepts to situations outside of therapy, they may report that therapy was beneficial.


Lisa M Kelly, Toronto Psychotherapist reviews:

When reading psychotherapist Toronto reviews ask:

  • What attributes am I looking for in a therapist?
  • Can I speak to him or her at no cost before booking?
  • Do I feel comfortable after speaking with the psychotherapist?
  • Am I drawn to a particular topic or comment on the professional's website?
  • Does the therapist enjoy working on the issues I want help with?
  • Is the therapy office conveniently located?


psychotherapy relational Toronto relationship issues therapist in downtown Toronto


Registered Psychotherapist and Toronto Relationship Therapist offering psychotherapy in downtown Toronto, Cabbagetown, Yorkville, Riverdale, Leslieville, St. Lawrence Market, the Distillery, Rosedale, the GTA.



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